It is my favourite time of year. Fleeting, but so beautiful.
The
woods are filling up with drifts of bluebells again, but they are full
of ghosts too, each morning as I walk through them in wind, or rain or
dappled sunlight.
People and dogs and places that I can no longer reach out and touch.
The gradual veiling of our lives that happens, I suppose, to all of us.
I wrote this piece some years ago, but it has come into my mind often recently, so I am posting it again.
When I was very young, my grandfather took me on an outing.
It is one of the prized memories of my childhood.
I
didn't see a great deal of my grandfather, because he lived in England
and we lived in a variety of other places - all far away - but on this
particular occasion we were in Cornwall, which was not his home, but was
where his wife, my grandmother had been born and brought up. I suppose
we were there visiting relatives when my 'outing' took place.
Together
we walked up through the small, typically Cornish village to the
railway station, and took the train over the viaduct. Then we walked
down through the woods on the far side of the valley and someone rowed
us back across the river in their boat. At least, that's what I recall.
I
suppose every part of the trip was intrinsically memorable, because
there weren't trains, or viaducts or rowing boats in my other life, and I
was a very impressionable child. But those aren't the bits I remember.
It was the woods that transformed that outing into something so magical, they still call me back today.
We didn't have woods where I lived either, we had tropical rain forests.
We certainly didn't have bluebells.
And
I'm sure that while the whole trip was beyond exciting, it was for the
bluebells my grandfather took me there, and to see his own personal ghosts .
To a small child, a sea of bluebells is a
life-changing experience. They are astonishing, and other-worldly, and
intoxicating. It's not just the intensity of colour, or the waist-deep
sea that immerses you as surely as water closing over your head, it's
also the scent.
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An English bluebell |
You can tell an English bluebell (
Hyacinthoides non-scripta)
quite easily from the Spanish variety which is, apparently taking over
in some areas of Britain and Ireland. Apart from the occasional white
one, they are always blue, they have slender stems that arch,
creamy-white stamens and they are scented. The Spanish ones are blue or
pink or white, are sturdier, with thicker stems that don't arch; they
don't have white stamens and they don't smell.
There is
nothing to compare with the scent of bluebells. It is a delicate
perfume that is never overpowering, as the delightful but much stronger
lily-of-the-valley can be. It teases rather than flaunts itself, and it
is very hard to emulate. The only bluebell soap I have ever had that
actually smelt of bluebells was a box my mother once gave me, which came
from Harrods. I don't know if they still make it, but it would be worth
being on their mailing list if they do, as I can think of no nicer
present. I put the three, heart-shaped bars in my linen cupboard to
scent my pillowcases, and rationed them so they would last as long as
possible. Fortunately the In-Charge didn't mind using the Imperial
Leather instead.
They say it is smell that lodges so deeply in the memory that you can never prise it out.
I believe them.
One
whiff of bluebells and I am a child again, waist high in magic, my soul
back on the potter's wheel being shaped - again - around that day so
long ago.
But colour does funny things to me as well. My mother used to quote a line about the colour of bluebells -
'...no man has ever named it yet, that shade half blue, half violet...'
It is probably my favourite colour, and everything about it is encapsulated in another line I once read:
'blue that is a lovely hurting in the eyes'.
Yesterday,
on a sudden impulse, I dropped everything I was supposed to be doing,
threw the divine duo into the back of the faithful little green car (the
silver beast being still an in-patient) and drove to a bluebell wood
that I have known of for years, but never visited. It's a long way away,
and after ten minutes or so there was muttering on the back seat.
'We usually walk to the woods,' Under Dog said.
'Don't worry,' Top Dog soothed. 'This is the way to our favourite beach.'
Fifteen minutes later, it started again.
'She's missed the turn off. She's lost,' Under Dog said miserably.
'They're
always getting lost. Look at the Master - he doesn't find his way home
'til supper time most days. At least we're here to find the way back.'
Top Dog reassured him.
Forty minutes into the journey,
they curled up on the back seat in silence, which was quite a statement,
as they usually like to drive. At least, Top Dog drives, head thrust
forward, gimlet-eyed, his attention only wavering if we pass another
dog.
Under Dog, it has to be confessed, drives by looking out of the back window to check where we've been.
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How we miss the Divine Duo |
They cheered up when we arrived.
It had been a long drive, but we all thought it was worth it. The flowers weren't fully out, but it didn't matter.
They
raced off between the trees and I raced back in time on a
helter-skelter rollercoaster through all the bluebell woods that are
part of who I am.
I
was a small child in Cornwall again; an adolescent in the beech woods
near our eventual English home; a lover with her swain; a young mother
taking her small son to be bewitched. It is always the same.That blue
against the acid green of young leaves and I can scarcely breathe. When
something pierces you through and through, you always catch your breath -
our deepest memories, I've heard, are held in our breath.
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My son, aged 2, encountering bewitchment |
As we meandered along the paths through the wood, I thought again of
my grandfather, and the gift he had given me. A gift from his own
experience, a gift he would have received again in the giving.
Now
I realize what a two-edged sword it must have been, because now I
understand the perpetual cycle of memory. That happiness and grief are
inseparable.
I can only imagine what was in my grandfather's heart
the day he took me on that outing. He must have been looking back, just
as I was doing now, at the endlessly turning circle that somehow weaves
an individual picture for each of us. He had walked those woods with
his lover, with the wife she came to be, and then with his small twin
daughters, long before he bequeathed bluebells to me.
I suppose he felt happiness for my joy and grief for his own sorrow.
Because the love of his life, the woman who had first taken him to those woods, died when my mother was only twelve.
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My grandparents, young and happy |
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There are no better words than those of Kahlil Gibran: 'When you are
joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that
which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. And when you are
sorrowful, look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth
you are weeping for that which has been your delight.'
If a bluebell wood can make you smile and make you cry, then truly it is the sum of all things.